Buddhism about Happiness
"The first step in seeking
is learning. We first have to learn how negative emotions and behaviors are
harmful to us and how positive emotions are helpful. We must also realize
that these negative emotions are not only very bad and harmful to one
personally, but are also harmful to society and the future of the whole
Everyone wants to
happy and no one wants to suffer, but very few people understand the real
happiness and suffering. We tend to look for happiness outside
ourselves, thinking that if we had the right house, the right car, the right
job, and the right friends we would be truly happy. We spend almost all our
time adjusting the external world, trying to make it conform to our wishes.
All our life we have tried to surround ourselves with people and things that
make us feel comfortable, secure, or stimulated, yet still we have not found
pure and lasting happiness.
It is time we sought happiness from a different
is a state of mind, so the real source of happiness must lie within the
mind, not in external conditions. If our mind is pure and peaceful we shall
be happy, regardless of our external circumstances, but if it is impure and
unpeaceful we can never be truly happy, no matter how hard we try to change
our external conditions. We could change our home or our partner countless
times, but until we change our restless, discontented mind we shall never
find true happiness.
Dalai Lama's Approach
"There are two kinds
of happiness - the temporary pleasure derived primarily from material
comfort alone and another more enduring comfort that results from the
thorough transformation and development of the mind. We can see in our own
lives that the latter form of happiness is superior because when our mental
state is calm and happy, we can easily put up with minor pains and physical
discomforts. On the other hand, when our mind is restless and upset, the
most comfortable physical facilities do not make us happy/"
happiness can be achieved through
compassion and training the mind.
From his perspective there is an inextricable link between one's own
personal happiness and kindness and caring and compassion towards others.
It's not only from the Dalai Lama's perspective –
from his particular view of life and Buddhist philosophy –
but also from the scientific standpoint that shows that happy people are
much more likely to show compassion.
What's remarkable is this amazing link between happiness and kindness
Happier people are more likely to help the other person. But
the Dalai Lama feels that it works the other way around as well.
That the deliberate cultivation of kindness and compassion and caring and
tolerance and forgiveness and these type of things will make one a happier
Dalai Lama's approach to achieving happiness
begins with distinguishing between spirituality and religion. To have a
spiritual dimension in your life, you should appreciate your potential as a
human being and recognize the importance of inner transformation through a
process of mental development.
The art of happiness has many components. It
begins with developing an understanding of what are the truest sources of
happiness and setting your priorities in life based on the cultivation of
those sources. "It involves an inner discipline, a gradual process of
rooting out destructive mental states and replacing them with positive,
constructive states of mind, such as kindness, tolerance, and forgiveness."1
is a key element of a