Conflict Resolution

 

How To Resolve Inner and Outer Conflict

 

Rama Vernon

 

 

10-Step Yoga Guideline

 

 

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Practice Non-Violence

 

Practice non-violence − physical, mental and verbal) within yourself and your own life.

To be truly non-violent, it is necessary to cultivate the spirit of non-judgment and forgiveness. Non-violence requires a continual refinement and awareness of your own inner process. It requires the reduction and eventual elimination of judgment, criticisms, and projections onto others. True non-violence is the development of a positive dynamic quality of universal love and not a mere attitude of negative harm to others.  >>>

Sun Tzu: The Art of War

To win 100 victories in 100 battles is not the acme of skill. To subdue the enemy without fighting is the acme of skill.

Sun Tzu

The Art of War

  

 

 

Express Truthfulness

 

Express truthfulness by aligning thoughts, words and actions.

Being truthful has many facets including following through with our commitments, not saying one thing and doing another. It is also not saying one thing to one person and making a contradictory statement to another. It is also not saying another. Truthfulness constructs rather than destroys; it is not a state of angrily hurling our opinions or judgments to others, thinking them to be fact.

It is taking responsibility for our own judgments of others by looking to the source of our projections within our own selves. It is the direct expression to another, free of the anger that arises out of our own unfilled expectations and desires. Truthfulness is the gift of non-criticism. It expresses the thoughts and words that heal rather than wound the hearts of others. There is great power in truthfulness.  When truthfulness is achieved, your words will acquire the power of fruition and manifestation.

Mahatma Gandhi advice quotes

We win justice quickest by rendering justice to the other party.

Mahatma Gandhi

   

 

 

Develop Non-Covetousness (Non Envy)

 

When we give up "wanting" many things will be given onto us and manifest in a variety of unexpected ways. Non-covetousness creates a feeling of unattachment. We only want or "covet" what we feel we lack, whether it is material possessions or qualities we admire in others. If we envy the possessions and qualities of others that we feel we lack within ourselves, it can create territorialness, competition, envy and, in turn, the "downplaying" of others in order to boast our low self esteem. When we are fulfilled within ourselves there is no need to compete, criticize, or gossip about others to make ourselves feel superior. When there is no envy or wanting what others have (possessions or qualities) we can delight in their joys and successes as we would our own.

Lao Tzu advice quotes teachings

Can you love or guide someone without any kind of expectation?

Lao Tzu

 

 

 

Assume an Attitude of Non-Possessiveness

 

Assume an attitude of non-possessiveness physical and emotional) avoiding over accumulation of possessions that causes us to protect and defend.

This mainly refers to our emotional storehouse of memories of anger, resentment, projections and aggressive thoughts towards others. As we develop a feeling of giving in all areas of our lives, it contributes to a sense of trust and non-defensiveness. When we are bound by the ordinary desire of a variety of needs for security, the walls we build to keep something in also are the walls that keep something out. We become possessed by our own need for security which can also take the form of attachment to personal, ideological, socio-political, religious and spiritual beliefs. When desire to possess and accumulate is absent, we seek nothing for our separated and individual self. Non-possessiveness is a stage where we find that "more is not always better", and that "if only things could be different", then we would be happy. It is the realization that little is required for a loving and true experience of happiness.

Buddha teachings

Conquer the angry man by love.

Buddha

 

 

 

Regulate the Senses

 

Regulate the senses − avoid physical and emotional self-indulgence.

Sensual regulation is not repression of sensual needs for gratification but sublimation of our desires into the sacred act of giving of oneself. For instance, it is meeting one's sexual partner as a manifestation of the divine. It is moving from self-gratification to understanding the roots of the needs of the human soul. Regulating the senses is not just of food, drink or the sexual drive, it also includes self pity. When our eyes are filled with our own tears, they cannot see the suffering of others. When we indulge in our own emotional pains, we cannot extend our hands to another. Self pity is the mirror of our ego turned in on ourselves. It creates separation rather than unification. When we are absorbed with our little self, we cannot serve the greater whole.

Bhagavad Gita quotes

If you want to see the brave, look to those who can return love for hatred. If you wan to see heroic, look to those who can forgive.

Bhagavad

Gitta

 

 

 

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