Tagore quotes

The bird thinks it is an act of kindness
to give the fish a lift in the air.

Rabindranath Tagore

 

Don't forget that your and your prospect's map of the reality is not the same
the meaning of the same thing is
different for different people

 

① Explore what you think about the relationship. Label both your own and the other person's behavior.  Change the state shake off all bad feelings.

② Explore the relationship from the other person's point of view. Imagine how they experience your behavior. What sort of label would they put on it? How do they feel? Shake off that emotional state before continuing.

③ Go outside the relationship, become a detached observer imagine a stage and see both of you on stage. See that other person doing what they do, and see yourself responding to them... More

④ Shift your question from 'How can I change that person's behavior?' to 'How am I reinforcing or triggering that person's behavior?' Explore how else you could respond to him or her.  >>>

   

   

Vadim Kotelnikov advice quotes

If you really want to understand someone, free yourself from your ego and become the person you want to understand.  >>>

Vadim Kotelnikov

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Confucius advice

Do not impose on others what you yourself do not desire.  >>>

Confucius

Russian proverbs

No one should go to another monastery with one's own charter.

Russian

proverb

Abraham Lincoln advice

Tact is the ability to describe others as they see themselves.

Abraham Linkoln

Andy Rooney quotes

I've learned... That sometimes all a person needs is
a hand to hold and a heart to understand.

Andy Rooney

Vadim Kotelnikov advice quotes

Fools talk mouth-to-mouth. Intelligent people talk mouth-to-ear.
Wise people and lovers talk soul-to-soul.

Vadim Kotelnikov

Vadim Kotelnikov, founder of 1000ventures - personal logo    Business e-Coach    Innompic Games icon