Get the Cooperation of Others
is the key to building a
Once you empower people by learning how to
them, they will want to work with you to help you achieve your goals in
everything you do. Your ability to enlist the knowledge,
and resources of others enables you to become a multiplication sign, to
leverage yourself so that you accomplish far more than the average
person and in a far shorter period of time.
Determine the Key People To Empower
There are three types of people that you want to and need to empower on a
regular basis. They are, first of all, the people closest to you: your
family, your friends, your spouse and your children. Second are your work
relationships: your staff, your coworkers, your peers, your colleagues and
even your boss. Third are all the other people that you interact with in
your day-to-day life:
your suppliers, your banker, the people with whom you deal in stores,
restaurants, airplanes, hotels and everywhere else. In each case, your
ability to get people to help you is what will make you a more powerful and
Always Be Positive
Empower means “putting power into,” and it can also mean “bringing energy
and enthusiasm out of.” So the first step in empowering people is to refrain
from doing anything that disempowers them or reduces their energy and
enthusiasm for what they are doing.
There are things you can do every single day to empower people and make them
feel good about themselves.
Satisfy the Deepest Needs
The deepest need that each person has is for self-esteem, a sense of being
important, valuable and worthwhile. Everything that you do in your
interactions with others affects their self-esteem in some way. You already
have an excellent frame of reference to determine the things that you can do
to boost the self-esteem and therefore the sense of personal power of those
around you. Give them what you’d like for yourself.
Continually Express Appreciation
Perhaps the simplest way to make another person feel good about himself or
herself is your continuous expressions of appreciation for everything that
person does for you, large or small. Say “thank you” on every occasion.
Thank your spouse for everything that he or she does for you. Thank your
children for their cooperation and support in everything that they do around
the house. Thank your friends for the smallest of kindnesses. The more you
thank other people for doing things for you, the more things those other
people will want to do.
Here are two things you can do immediately to put these ideas into
First, continually look for ways to make people feel more valuable and
important. Say things to others that you would like others to say to you.
Second, express appreciation for everything anyone does for you, large or
small. Say the words, “thank you” on every occasion.