Success Secrets:

Your People Skills

Create Greater Value for Others

How To Communicate Better, Understand and Influence People

Vadim Kotelnikov personal logo Vadim Kotelnikov

Founder, Ten3 Business e-Coach – Inspiration, Achievement, Innovation and Happiness unlimited!

  

  

 

 

  

 
 

"Try not to become a man of success but rather to become a man of value."

~ Albert Einstein

 

"It is literally true that you can succeed best and quickest by helping others to succeed."

~ Napoleon Hill

 

"Seek first to understand, then to be understood."

~ Stephen Covey

 

Yin-Yang of Influencing People

 

"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless."

~ Mother Theresa

 

"One kind word can warm three winter months."

~ Japanese proverb

 

 

Happy vs. Unhappy People

10 Differences

  • Unhappy people are self-focused, socially withdrawn, antagonistic. Happy people are compassionate, loving, sociable... More

Great Achiever

8 Winning Habits

10 Positive Affirmations for Achievement

12 Effective Leadership Roles

B. Empower, Inspire, and Energize People

Inspirational Leader: 10 Roles

  

Your People Skills

Your People Skills 360

Win-Win Mindset

Empower Others

Solving People Problems

Selling Is Problem Solving

Empathize

Compassion Quotes

Success Secrets

The Wheel of Personal Success

Happiness 360: The Three Loves

NLP – the Technology of Achievement

Coaching Yourself

Coaching

Coaching Spectrum: The Ask/Tell Repertoire

Coaching by Questions

Bad Feedback vs. Good Feedback: Helpful Hints

Selecting an Appropriate Coaching Style: the Skill / Will Matrix

Structuring a Coaching Session – the GROW Model

Instant Payoff Coaching

Coaching Yourself

Inspirational Leadership

Energizing People

Inspiring People

Employee Empowerment

Understand and Fulfill Needs of Others

The Golden Rule says, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."

To achieve a 360 success in all areas of your life and business, you must strive to create a greater – and unique! – value for people around you. Just creating some value is not enough. You must be different and very special in their lives.

People are motivated for their reasons, not yours. Satisfy the deepest needs of people around you. The deepest need that each person has is for self-esteem, a sense of being important, and valuable. Everything that you do in your interactions with other people affects their self-esteem in some way.

Same Reality, Different Perceptions

4 NLP Perceptual Positions

Continually look for ways to make people feel more valuable and important.

"Whoever renders service to many puts himself in line for greatness – great wealth, great return, great satisfaction, great reputation, and great joy."

~ Jim Rohn

Listen carefully, ask questions to show that you are genuinely interested and you'll be amazed at the spin-offs from becoming a good question asker and a good listener. People appreciate, respect and value others who are great listeners and can listen to their emotions.

Helping Yourself by Helping Others

Sincere givers gain. The people who give willingly are the ones who receive the most.

 “It is one of the most beautiful compensations of life that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself,”

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

"Those who are not looking for happiness are the most likely to find it, because those who are searching forget that the surest way to be happy is to seek happiness for others."
~ Martin Luther King Jr

 

"Look for chances to lighten a burden for someone else and you’ll be surprised to find that your own burdens aren’t quite so heavy to bear. The great thing about service is that you can help others and feel great about it,"

~ Yee Shun-Jian

One of the golden rules of the therapy profession is that everyone needs at least one person with whom they can openly and unashamedly discuss every little detail – happenings, desires, fears – of their life, whether it is from the past, present, or future. There are other psychological needs – to be accepted unconditionally, appreciated, recognized, respected, desired, valued, approved of, or complimented – that affect the way we communicate with each other.

"In our new economy -- where ideas rule and so many people are looking for new strategies to get ahead -- the most successful entrepreneurs will be content creators, trainers, coaches, and online information marketers who help others survive and thrive. People who use their life's story and strategies for success to help other people improve their lives or businesses will have more income, influence and impact."

~ Brendon Burchard

You grow when you help others. In order to help others to grow, you need to be a good example for them. You must stretch yourself. To teach and inspire others, you must learn a lot and be inspired yourself. You must learn how to motivate yourself and others.

Leading

You must learn to be a great leader. Leadership is essentially about helping people to achieve a better life and extraordinary results. Great leaders help other people lead themselves, energize them and help them achieve their stretch goals.

12 Major Causes of Failure in Leadership

Leader as Servant

Jesus said that in order to be a leader you had to first learn how to serve others.

You cannot lead people unless they are willing to follow you. People will trust you if you help them achieve more, unleash their creativity and bring out their own sense of worth... More

Coaching

You must learn to be a great coach. Coaching provides transformational solutions to real-life problems. It helps people achieve more and feel happier. When you help others grow and enhance their performance and learning ability, you increase your own effectiveness as a leader and coach. It is a chain reaction... More