Your People Skills

 

People Skills:

Establishing Relationships

Building Trust

The Key To Influencing People

By: Vadim Kotelnikov

Founder, Ten3 Business e-Coach – Your 360 Achievement Catalyst!

 

 

"If you don't trust people, people will not trust you."

~ Lao Tzu

"To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved."

~ George MacDonald

 

Trust versus Credibility

  • Credibility is intellectual

  • Trust is visceral

Building Trust: Behavioral Attributes4

  • sharing important information, especially about oneself

  • willingness to be influenced

  • avoiding the abuse of team-members' vulnerability (because of their inadequate access to information or lack of positional power, and so on)

  • being fair

  • fulfilling promises

Your People Skills 360

12 Effective Leadership Roles

  • Demonstrate confidence; win respect and trust without courting popularity... More

Manager's Tasks: Placing Trust in People

Demonstrate trust in your staff, and prove yourself worthy of trust:

  • Never make promises that you are not able or are not intending to keep

  • Never ask others to do anything that you would not do yourself

  • Ensure your people know that they can count on your respect and your loyalty, unless and until they prove undeserving

 

 

9 Signs of a Losing Organization

  1. Discouraging Culture: lack of trust; blame culture; focus on problems, not opportunities; diversity is not celebrated; failures are not tolerated... More

5 Characteristics of a Winning Team

  • Mutual Trust:  Mutual trust is a shared belief that you can depend on each other to achieve a common purpose. In a team, members work in a climate of trust. They are encouraged to openly express opinions, feelings, and doubts. Team members share important information and ideas. They are fair, willing to be influenced and fulfill their promises. Trust also fosters enthusiasm, ensuring the best performance from everyone... More

The 17 Indisputable Laws of Teamwork

  • The Law of Countability: Teammates Must Be Able to Count on Each Other When It Counts... More

Trust as a Source of Sustainable Competitive Advantage1

  1. Valuable because it allows your firm to better serve your customers and to improve its performance as a result.

  2. Rare because few rivals have the relationship between managers and employees that trust denotes.

  3. Costly to imitate because trust is causally ambiguous and socially complex. As such, it is difficult for your competitors to understand what trust is and how to establish it in their firms.

  4. Nonsubstitutable because trust is a capability that is difficult for your competitors to observe, and capabilities that cannot be observed at least somewhat easily are hard to imitate.

Sustainable Competitive Advantage

12 Tips for Global Business Travelers

Stray Birds

By: Rabindranath Tagore

"Let this be my last word, but I trust in thy love."... More

Trust Defined

 

Mutual trust is a shared belief that you can depend on each other to achieve a common purpose.

More comprehensively trust defined as "the willingness of a party (trustor) to be vulnerable to the actions of another party (trustee) based on the expectation that the trustee will perform an action important to the trustor, regardless of the trustor's ability to monitor or control the trustee."8

"People sense how you feel about them. If you want to change their attitudes toward you, change the negative attitudes you have toward them." Building relationships requires the building of trust. Trust is the expectancy of people that they can rely on your word. It is built through integrity and consistency in relationships.

Effective Listening: The Bottom Line of Trust

If you listen well people will trust you. "You cannot establish trust if you cannot listen. A conversation is a relationship. Both speaker and listener play a part, each influencing the other. Instead of being a passive recipient, the listener has as much to do in shaping the conversation as the speaker"9... More

 

Empathy

Empathy is valued currency. It allows us to create bonds of trust, it gives us insights into what others may be feeling or thinking; it helps us understand how or why others are reacting to situations, it sharpens our “people acumen” and informs our decisions.

Empathy is also particularly critical to leadership development in this age of young, independent, highly marketable and mobile workers... More

Trust-based Working Relationships

Trust has an important link with your organizational success. "Trust elevates levels of commitment and sustains effort and performance without the need for management controls and close monitoring."4 Trust between a manager and an employee is based on the trustor's perception of the trustee ability, benevolence, and integrity.

 Case in Point  GE Work-Out

One of the four GE Work-Out's major goals is to build trust through encouraging employees to speak out critically inside the company about GE and the way they perform their jobs without negative consequences to their careers.

Trust as a Source of Competitive Advantage

Trust-based working relationships are an important source of your sustainable competitive advantage because trust is valuable, rare, imperfectly imitable, and often nonsubstitutable. The level of trust a corporate leader is able to garner from his/her employees is contingent upon the employee's perceptions of the leader's ability, benevolence, and integrity. A study that was conducted to determine whether trust could be a source of competitive advantage8 showed that trust is significantly related to sales, profits, and turnover. More broadly, the study concluded that "the ability of a general manager to earn higher trust from her or his employees likely creates a competitive advantage for a firm over its rivals."7

Customers Will Come Back If...

  • You keep your promises... More

Synergistic Selling: 3 Pillars

Managing Cultural Differences

Cultural differences play a key role in the creation of trust, since trust is built in different ways, and means different things in different cultures... More

HARNESSING CULTURAL INTELLIGENCE (CQ) - Building Cross-cultural Competence and Leveraging Diversity (mini-course, PowerPoint presentation download, Vadim Kotelnikov, One World One Way Many Paths)

 

 Discover much more in the

FULL VERSION of e-Coach

Trustee's Ability, Benevolence, and Integrity...

Establishing Rapport...

Eye Contact...

Building Trust in Business Partnerships...

Eight Conditions for Trust Between Organizations...

Building Trust By Acting Consistently...

Assessing the Trust Level...

 Best Practices  HP Values...

 

 

References:

  1. The Tao of Coaching, Max Landsberg

  2. Secrets of Power Persuasion for Salespeople, Roger Dawson

  3. Essential Manager's Manual, Robert Heller and Tim Hindle

  4. The Leadership Crash Course, Paul Taffinder

  5. Trusted Partners, Jordan D. Lewis

  6. Building Trust Across Cultural Boundaries, Ira Asherman, John W. Bing, Ed.D., and Lionel Laroche

  7. Strategic Management: Competitiveness and Globalization, Edition 4, Thomson Learning

  8. The Trusted General Manager and Business Unit Performance: Empirical Evidence of a Competitive Advantage, J.H.Davis, F.D.Schoorman, & H.H.Tan

  9. Selling With NLP, Kerry L. Johnson

  10. Your People Skills,  Vadim Kotelnikov

  11. SMART Leader, Vadim Kotelnikov

  12. Winning Customers, Vadim Kotelnikov