Vadim Kotelnikov    

Know Yourself and Others

Recognize Your Own and Other People's Needs, Capabilities, Thinking and Communication Styles


Vadim Kotelnikov, founder of 1000ventures - personal logo   Business e-Coach  



NLP Psychology of Success Effective Communication Understanding Perceptions Beliefs and Values EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION: NLP Solutions - Understanding People's Perceptions



10 Steps To Resolving Inner and Outer Conflict

  • Practice Non-Violence (physical, mental and verbal) within yourself and your own life.

  • Assume an Attitude of Non-Possessiveness (physical and emotional) avoiding over accumulation of possessions that causes us to protect and defend... More

Humorous Business Plans

Great Communicator

Targeted Market: "I like to talk with people who express my thoughts clearly." Unknown...

Communication Management Skills: "Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth." Oscar Wilde...  More

What Does Creativity Brings To Your Life?

  • Creativity brings opportunities for self-discovery of what's "in here". It brings heightened awareness and increased ability to understand yourself... More





People Skills

Building Relationships

Listening    Body Language

Mind    Mental Maps  >>  Predicates

Perceptions    Perceptual Positions

Hierarchy of Personal Needs    8 Needs that Motivate

Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI)

Tibetan Personality Test

10 Strategies To Meet Psychological Needs of Team Members

Cultural Intelligence

World Cultures

Eastern vs. Western Philosophy: Key Concepts

Managing Cross-Cultural Differences


Discover Yourself

"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us."
~ Oliver Wendell Holmes

To discover your true ‒ divine ‒ self, get rid of all your attitudes and thoughts that are not nurtured by love... More

Recognizing Beliefs and Values

Beliefs are the assumptions we make about ourselves, about others in the world and about how we expect things to be.

"These assumptions determine the way we behave and shape our decision-making process. They are often based on emotions rather than facts. We tend to notice 'facts' that reinforce our beliefs."7... More

The Way Our Mind Works

The language of brain are pictures, sounds, feelings, tastes and smells, i.e. inputs from your senses. Your brain cannot work with negative information, i.e. inputs you haven't experienced. It can work only with positive information, i.e. "information from the experiences of your five senses, which it then manipulates in the emotional blender we call the imagination."8... More

Self-Awareness the First Step to Influencing Others

By knowing yourself then only can you know other people and influence and share your experiences with them... More

Humorous Business Plan: Successful Marriage

Brief History: "Love is blind marriage is the eye-opener." Pauline Thomason...

Milestones Completed and Future Plans: "As soon as you find the one to marry, just shut up and listen." Unknown... More

Reading People Listen Intently to the Specific Words People Use10

Ask a simple open-ended question. Then, be quiet and make note of the exact words the other person uses. When a person answers an open-ended question, he stops focusing outward and goes inside his mind. At that instant, he becomes relatively unaware of the words he uses. Those words point back in time to meaningful memories and emotional experiences.

Just listen. Most people tell you more about themselves than they think. Add those words to the facial expressions and body language. What you get is the beginning of an in-depth psychological profile. Once you get that, you will get a much better understanding of how to build rapport and trust; how to connect to that person; what to promise, and how to fulfill those promises... More

Understanding Preferred Styles

There are many models for understanding and characterizing the styles of interaction different people prefer to employ. A widely used approach is the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). It is based on the following four dimensions of a person's preferred approach to life.

  1. How you are energized (Extrovert vs. Introvert)

  2. What you pay attention to (Sensing vs. Intuition)

  3. How you make decisions (Thinking vs. Feeling)

  4. How you live and work (Judgment vs. Perceptions)... More

Humorous Business Plan: Success in Love

Growth Strategy: "If men knew all that women think, they'd be twenty times more daring." Alphonse Karr...

Market Analysis: "Women are made to be loved, not understood." Oscar Wilde... More

12 Tips for Global Travelers

  1. Learn something about the country, local customs, and cultural sensitivities to avoid making faux pas while abroad... More

Using the Enneagram

The purpose of the Enneagram is self-knowledge that can be used to further your spiritual growth, and your understanding and compassion of others. This system can be applied for analyzing and influencing unconscious strategies and behavior of not only people but also organizations, cultures, and countries... More

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Representation Systems...

NLP Technology of Achievement: Accessing Cues...

Connecting With People...

Establishing Rapport...

Integral Yoga and Self-Awareness...

Managing Cross-Cultural Differences...

Cross-cultural Communication...

Listening To What Is Not Being Said...


Lao Tzu advice quotes teachings

Intelligent people know others.
Enlightened people know themselves.

Lao Tzu

Alan Alda quotes

Leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition. What you'll discover will be yourself.


Stephen Covey advice quotes

We are not human beings on a spiritual journey. We are spiritual beings on a human journey... More


Vadim Kotelnikov advice quotes

To understand someone,
you must become that person.

Vadim Kotelnikov




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